The Falling Man



This is a true story.

I am walking down the street. Late winter. Late morning. Dull cold. Chicago. Everything overexposed in too bright light. I look down at my feet and see the stuff that’s been accumulating all winter caught in the dirty ice on the sidewalk. In the gutter. Things abandoned, lost, discarded: Christmas wrapping paper, a broken umbrella, a child’s scarf.

I’m wearing an overcoat that’s too long for me, the fabric flapping around my shins. Harris Tweed. The first thing I said when given the coat and tried it on (I’m always being given things, I rarely give) I said, “This coat is too long. I’ll have to have it hemmed.” So, for years on my list of things to do: Have Harris Tweed Overcoat Hemmed.

It’s a long list my to-do list. I’ve always been good at making lists. I like to see what needs doing, where it is I have to go. But the list only grows, it seems, longer. All talk I am. All list. I am my list. I am what I do not get done.

But I am walking down the street. Well, not my street. I don’t have a street of my own. That’s nothing to which I aspire. That’s one thing that’s not on my to-do list. I’m just walking down this sunlit March late morning street on which I merely live, listening to the sound of a hammer hitting wood and the sound of the sound echoing off the gray stone; the townhouses on the good end of the block. The hammering goes inside my head. (Or is it there already?) It feels gray like the stone of the houses by which I am walking.

Inside my head I do a lot of walking. I traffic in the past. It’s my specialty, trying to undo mistakes and make things right. Turn disappointment into hope. Rectify wrongs. Even the column of slights on the scorecard of life. Re-woo a lover who slipped through my fingers. Bring back friends from the dead. Inside my head I do not let then lie. They are not sleeping dogs. Can’t go to an animal shelter or a pet store and pick out new ones. But I can’t get started with that because I am walking down the street……

Listening to the hammering coming from atop the scaffolding in front of one of the gray houses. What’s going on? A renovation? Tuck-pointing of the stones? Cornices being brought back to life? Late winter sunlight fills my eyes as I look up to see who’s hammering above me. It’s the old man who’s been there all week. Looks Slavic. Very Chicago. There’s no one else around except us—the old man who is hammering and the young, not so young man, who hears the hammering.

On this street in this city people work for a living! Why was I ever allowed to live here anyway? Doesn’t look right, a grown man walking around in a too long Harris Tweed overcoat. Should have a proper job. Sit at a desk and talk into a telephone like everybody else, but right now I am walking down the gray hammering garbage gutter filled street that is not mine.

Suddenly, the sound of breaking wood, the scaffolding falling. The old man crying out and then he falling…..falling out of the winter sky. Off the beam. The wooden grip of the plank deserting him. Falling to earth. Gravity possessing him. Plummeting. Body turning. Face twisting. Head first. Eyes open wide his mouth wider. Screaming.

I step forward my arms stretched out to catch him. “No!” I yell as I reach toward the mass of flesh that Earth calls to her. His body eclipses the sun and for a moment his shadow blocks the light from my eyes.

“Dad!” (He is now my own father,) falling into unconsciousness, his gut full of tumors; malignant, inoperable; morphine easing him into death. My farmer father, smelling of cattle, wet soil, and brandy. War-frozen foxhole feet. With words I try to pull him back, to keep him longer in this world, hoping he’ll finally tell me he loves me.

The screams of the falling man bring me back to the winter morning. “Oh, God please!” (I implore a silent and indifferent deity.) I strain to catch the old man’s plunging bulk; my outstretched arms ready to be his salvation. Almost! I feel his rough workman’s jacket brushing my fingertips before he lands at my feet, the hard concrete yielding not to flesh and bone. Thud: his head. Thud, thud: his body, cracking, breaking. The whoosh of air forced from his lungs.

I am now over him, shadowing his ruined body. Gurgling of vomit and blood in his throat. Wild eyes look into and past me. Smell of feces. “God, please help!” (But God still answers not.) I take off my too-long overcoat and put it over him. “Can you hear me?”

But my father doesn’t hear me. The sound of tractors, combines, and milking machines; the sound of plowing, mowing, and raking; the sound of grenades, artillery fire, and bombs fills up the distance between us rendering him mute and me destitute from the waiting. The ache of wanting him to hear me. To see me. To say that I am his.

“Can you hear me?” But the old man hears nothing as he in stillness lies beneath my coat. “I tried to catch you; to break your fall.” His eyes now stare emptily into the sky.

“Dad! Say it! Tell me you love me!” His eyes open. His lips part and begin to tremble. I put my head next to his. To listen. To hear what it is he will say to me, his son.

But he says nothing. I am too late…………too late.




  1. When have you felt helpless in the face of a calamity or suffering?
  2. When dealing with a life challenge or issue does something from the past make its way into your consciousness?
  3. When was a time that you were too late?


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4 thoughts on “The Falling Man

    1. Hey, brother! It must have been in 1989 in Chicago. It was a very unsettling experience, although even then I knew that I had called to be there to be present for and witness to the man’s death. Literally, no one else was around. For all these years I’ve replayed the scene in my mind and fantasy and in it was able to break his fall and save his life. My father? I was too young to be of help to him. Love to you!

  1. My God…what a memory. Thank you, thank you for sharing. I am too late, the gathering of lists, full of regret more often than not. I pray one day you will know that you were there to witness, for to catch him would have pushed you beyond the veil into heaven.

    Sending love,

    P.S. You you write more. You are tremendously gifted.

    1. You are right! If I had “caught” him I would have perished also. I’d never been so close to death before…..oh, those sounds of his anguish the last few moments. One minute he was up on that scaffolding working to pay the bills and to help create a future for himself and his loved ones and then *gone.* I doubt the thought had entered his head that that day might be “his day and hour.” Mercy! Yes, I’ll write more! Love to you!

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